Around this time of year we are told what dads want for Father’s Day. The traditional gift of a tie or “World’s Best Dad” mug are now seen as archaic. We are told to go bigger and better with the types of gifts you get dear ol’ dad. Yet, with what we all have experienced last year we realize that less can be more in certain circumstances. One gift to give your dad that will not cost you a dime is time to hang out and reconnect with friends and family. Movember, the global men’s health charity, is helping us with some information and tips to get even the busiest dads to relax and recharge this Father’s Day.
Why Staying Connected Matters
In 2019, Movember commissioned research across Canada, the UK, USA, and Australia to investigate men’s social connections. It was with a specific emphasis on fatherhood and the impact of becoming a father. The report has evidence showing that becoming a father can be an isolating and stressful experience, particularly in the first 12 months. It identified that having close friends is important for fathers’ mental health because the dads without close friends reported being more likely to experience increased stress levels in the first 12 months of becoming a father (33% say their stress levels increased a lot compared with 23% of all men with at least one close friend).
Sadly, it also identified that 1 in 5 men lose contact with friends when they become a father, meaning that millions of men around the world could be losing key supportive relationships during this key transition in their lives. We tend to let our friendships go as we put our family first. Before you had kids you might have gone golfing or to the movies with your friends. Those times with your friends start to fade away when you become a dad. You may lose contact with your friends, and it is hard to make new friends because you are focused on your family.
So, make sure you routinely take time for yourself and spend time with your friends. Not only do you benefit from that time, but so do your friends.
As We Approach Father’s Day
As we approach Father’s Day, set up time with your friends that you haven’t seen in a bit. Whether you are going to a friend’s house to watch a game or getting together with your college roommates via Zoom, this is a great way to unwind and get some much needed “you time.”
I have done this a few times already this year. I had a few Zoom chats with my friends and college roommates from other states and had a blast. After a few hours of catching up and having fun conversations my battery was fully charged. I felt like I was a better husband and father because of that time with my friends. It meant a lot to spend quality time with friends. I didn’t have to worry about anything family related for a bit. These moments are priceless. This is a gift that all dads would love to receive this Father’s Day.
Movember Is There To Help Dads Out
I started up The Art of Fatherhood not only to share my fatherhood journey, but learn from other dads out there. I feel that running this site has made me a better father. In addition I get to see what other dads are doing and learn from them. I have told my daughters that even when they get done with college that they should never stop learning. You should always strive to learn something new each week. That is why I am a fan of Movember’s website. Movember has been doing great work to make sure guys are taking care of themselves. I have learned a lot on the Movember site about taking care of myself in all faucets.
Recently they created Family Man, the world’s first parenting tool created by dads, for dads. They believe that dads are a major part of many families, but don’t always have the tools to complete parenting programs. So, in true Movember fashion, they created Family Man to help dads on their fatherhood journey. The free online tool has easy to digest modules and actionable steps to help us through challenging parenting moments. Movember helps you look at parenting from a new perspective. I learned a lot from their interactive videos. This Father’s Day is a great time to start a new chapter in your fatherhood journey. It is definitely time well spent.
Moving Forward With Movember
Movember is more than a month. They are a global movement for men’s health and I highly encourage you to check out Movember.com regularly. They share stories from other guys that are going through similar things that you are going through in your life. The site is filled with parenting tips, videos and guides that will help you and your family. All of the advice that I shared with you from my own experience and the information I learned over from Movember is free.
Movember has health tips and tricks for taking care of your physical and mental health. If you are showing up for yourself, chances are you are going to show up stronger for your kids. The old proverb that it takes a village to raise a child also holds true when it comes to raising parents.
Please note: I teamed up with Movember for a paid campaign. Part of that campaign is this article, but my thoughts are my own.